Deeper than Just Your Singleness
Let’s start with the WHY..
Why would any woman need to go into her “solo season”? There can be a number of reasons as to why she should but there will often be a strong want to as well. To take a specific season (for however long ) to discover things about yourself with the intention to do this with very little to no connection to others while doing so is something that takes self love and self care to another level.
When your mental level has reached its capacity. Meaning, you are feeling the effects of an overload of emotions due to everyday responsibilities in your life or you are feeling that the connections in your world are not providing you with a healthy balance of positive energy, it may be time to go into your solo season. I will unpack more on the signs you may need to go into your solo season in part 2.
For me, going into my solo season felt necessary. It just felt like the right time and right thing to do for me. Feelings of pain, fear, stress, abandonment, loneliness, and an overwhelming feeling of uncertainty all played factors in my decision to move into this season. I felt as if a solo season would be a remedy for me and while I still occupy this season I can confidently say that it has been one of the most insightful and challenging yet rewarding periods of my life.
Shall I define my definition of the Solo Season more clearly?
The solo season is a period in one’s life where introspection of themselves takes a priority over what has typically been routine. It means that you are choosing to disconnect from the outside factors of your day to day life (within all things reasonable) and just focusing on you. It is taking an authentic approach to self awareness and understanding that you always have room and capacity for more growth. It could consist of healing from a trauma or failed relationship, disciplining yourself in different ways both physically and/or mentally. It could be putting a magnifying glass over your evolution in life thus far and understanding the significance of the changes through it, and it could also be attempting to understand some of your wrongs and giving the grace to forgive yourself for each of them.
Your solo season is custom made. You have to decide how to tailor fit it to what you need at this particular time in your life.
It’s getting back to you.
It’s taking a break from other connections, not to be confused with isolation, but just limiting the connections you may have been so used to yielding in and pouring so much of yourself into, and pulling back from those attachments, but again you are the designer of this season it will look and feel the way you desire it to be and your heart and your mind will guide you through this.
As another example, solo traveling may be an element of your solo season, and with this could potentially come the curiosity of people in your life as to why you would take such a significant action like traveling far distances (maybe even out of the country) by yourself, but you are still choosing to do it because you feel comfortable with the choice you made and find it necessary to do so. You get excitement and satisfaction from it and you look forward to the journey.
People may question your solo season. Thats okay. And you can either offer an explanation or you simply don’t have to.
See the thing is, the attitude and mindset in this season is equivalent to respectfully not really caring what others think about your choices, but more of focusing consistently on what you think is best. The explanation only has to make sense to you.
And to be clear, even though it’s more common, going into a solo season isn’t necessarily about being single and not dating or not having anyone in your intimate life. It’s deeper than that because honestly even in relationships, at times we can still be faced with inward feelings of whether or not a relationship journey is something we can continue to embark on and we may even feel like we need to acquire “space” from the relationship as we often call it.
My solo season actually began while I was still very much in a long term relationship which would later become a part of my life that had to come to end and it is because of this season of introspection that I would discover this.
Again, there are a number of reasons as to why one would choose a solo season and it is with hopes that during this particular season you will become crystal clear on your why.
Creative inspiration is another honorable mention and benefit of going into your solo season because it is one of those elements that could come to us in so many different ways and forms that will allow us to express what we may have been bottling up or felt like we didn’t have the time or space to lean into. So to actually make the time to explore your passions and bring them to life in a season that is designed to cater to your mental and emotional needs can be a beautifully curated project and process along the way.
In your solo season may you seek clarity and find the answers. May you cleanse wounds and heal them. May you battle those fears and overcome them. And may you establish your goals and be successful at achieving them.
Whatever you need your solo season to be, may you find peace within it.
Over the next few weeks, I hope to bring content that will give you a positive perspective on the solo season for a woman and I hope that somewhere at some point there will be women that will embrace this series and connect and find the relatability to it on a deeper level.
Please enjoy this journey.
Until next time,
Peace & Blessings
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